I clearly stated that I would edit this post when I got home. I am home now, and well since the whole world seems judgmental, and reactionary, I have now edited my post. feel free to read the unfinished un refined product quoted in one of the 2 following responces. I think Baiter understood me get to work boy youve got a long road and its a loney one for a while Peace
VOR: A guy pours his heart out on a BBS, asking for prayers, and you scold him? WTF is that? If you don't want to wish him well, just don't say anything. Geez. Good luck Baiter.
I agree. Baiter comes across as truly remorseful while VOR, sorry, comes across as somewhat condescending. When someone already says he truly regrets something he has done and it seems sincere, you do not go and shove it in his face again. And trying to keep a family together is not selfish, at least it does not have to be. "Take care of your kids", what advice is that, isn't one of the reasons he wants to keep his family together that this might just be the best for the kids?
MB, You are going to have to respect her wishes for some space while she works out her future. She will weigh everything thing that has happened, and this includes all the positive things too. The key is not to push her, she is hurting, and anything can tip the balance. Just tell her you will be willing to listen to whatever she has to say, and that you are very remorseful for whatever you did. Put your faith in God and realize that whatever the outcome the kids are the most important thing in this whole mess. DaDakota
Just a suggestion. This is not a workbook. Next time post a "finished" product. We don't wanna read rough drafts.... You are the guy who hammered a guy when he was down. Don't talk to us about being judgemental, please! How did you editing change the essence of your message. I detect no significant change from my reading. Again, good luck <b>MB</b>. I was in your wife's shoes at one time in my life. Our marriage "survived" two more years. We had two children, but her lack of remorse and insincere apology still left me feeling untrusting. Leave her no doubt in her heart or mind about those matters.
My prayers are with you MB. Remember that you can't control her decision. What she eventually decides will be between her and God, and it probably won't be easy. The best thing you can do for her, and yourself, is to deal with your own issues. The path to true repentance can be brutal, but ultimately cleansing, "as though it never happened." But that process is about you getting right with God and yourself, the first and most important step. Your wife has to deal with this in her way, and that has to be between her and God.
I guess God wasn't as fond of my marriage. I do wish you good luck, MB, and I'm glad that there's at least some communication and lots of deep thinking going on between you. And the fact that you understand some of your flaws and see a need to change them is encouraging, as well. Anyway, I wish you luck and note that even when you don't get what you think you want, things tend to have a way of working themselves out for the best.
