Another thought. Regardless of what happens with the father, I thinkthis 41 year old will look back and be glad it happened. Basso, are you ready to be an uncle? A similar "nephew" of mine, whose parents never got toether despite an attempt or two, just started A & M.
this is far and away my favorite glynch post ever. far and away. excellent points, glynch. very convicting. disappointing to see this father run from the resposibilities he has. i'm hoping one look at his sons/daughters will change all that.
Wow, you guys have good memories. I wouldn't expect everyone to remember this stuff. I guess I'll have to tone it down in case someone gets the wrong idea... ...but I don't understand, and never will understand, why these things on our chests are such a big freakin' deal.
yeah, i'm ready- i'm already an uncle 16 times over! actually, ever since i heard about this i've been thinking about what it might be like to adopt these kids. we have two of our own, and would probably have more if the cost of conception wasn't so high. we need high-tech assistance, as the old-fashioned way doesn't work for us...
Wrap it up. Besides, they have all these new versions to play with. Her ex sounds like a real a-hole.
That makes you sound like a jerk. It wasn't entirely 'careless'. I imagine that most if not all of us here took a careless 'chance' once or twice. .. at least. And since men cannot get pregnant I think you should pretty well bite your tongue before judging a woman who's become unexpectedly pregnant.
Tooooooo baaaaaaaaaad. It's not about him anymore, and the sooner he realizes this the better it will be for everyone. And some people react poorly when surprised by a life-changing event. His reaction sucks, but I'd give him some time and space before judging him. Twins, I can only think 'what a blessing'. There's no denying that our society and culture raise us in a particular way that undervalues family. Many start thinking 'what about my career?' 'what about money?' 'what about my lifestyle?' But there's nothing better... and nothing more important.
Hippieloser, I wouldn't do anything rash about your privates. You may meet the love of your life someday, and the deal breaker may be that she wants a kid. Women may tend to have them later than they used to (women and their partners, in concert, of course), but my experience is that the urge to have at least one child is back there in the old brain somewhere, and most will want that option with a potential lifetime partner, even if they currently have no overt interest in it. Having yourself "cut" might cause you some grief, in other words, down the road. Personally, it makes me cross my legs and wince! You see billboards today saying to "come on in and get your vasectomy reversed!" There are no guarantees that the procedure will be successful, and getting a reversal is a hell of a lot more expensive than getting yourself wacked on. Hey, my wife and I had no interest in having children for years, because we were enjoying our freedom so much, and doing things we knew children would make damn near impossible, unless you are wealthy enough to have someone work for you to care for them, or relatives who are glad to keep them for months, so you can travel, (we were lucky enough to be able to do that with our dogs. ), or that they are old enough to take with you and get something from the experience (something I was lucky enough to do when I was young, and do with my own kids). I guess I'm being long-winded. I'll just finish with this... we decided to have children in our mid to late 30's (me being the "late 30's" one), astonishing ourselves, and couldn't be happier with the decision. I'll be 62 when my youngest graduates from high school, unless she does it early, which is a real possibility, and the only regret I have is that my back is so screwed up, I can't do the things with them that I could have, before an idiot ran a red light. And that could have happened 20 years earlier. Heck, a couple of other things... the pill used to be far stronger than it is now. If you missed a couple, you just took the ones you missed, and carried on. It worked like a charm with those I had relationships with, and my wife, before and after we got married. That's not the case today. The other thing is that I'm so glad that I lived in an era when the worst thing you could get from having sex could be cured with a shot. I know I've said this before around here, but I don't envy those of you who have to deal with the diseases we have now. "Free love" was not something made up in Hollywood, for those who missed the '60's and early-mid '70's. It was real, and it was spectacular!
There are a lot of of stupid comments in this thread. No one except Basso knows this woman and no one can say how these kids will grow up. Unstable household? Lives screwed up? These are all judgement calls that none of you are in a position to make. STFU. I have a friend who is in a very similar situation. She's now 42, the daughter is 2, and they are the happiest, most stable, well adjusted family of two you will ever meet. Not necessarily. In the above example, the father said the same thing....he didn't want anything to do with the kid. Instead of fighting him, my friend decided it was in her best interest, and her daughter's best interest, to not include the father. So when the child was born, she did not list his name on the birth certificate. Essentually, she has no father. By doing it this way, my friend forfeited her right to sue for child support. In the same regard, the father has no custody or visitation rights whatsoever. basso, I'm happy for your friend. As for the rest of you, don't judge something you have no clue about.
So what's wrong with your back? Mine is screwed up too. I've had two surgeries already, and have an appointment with a neurosurgeon on Friday to determine if a third operation is needed. I know all about back troubles.
Just wondered. He's my cousin and has lived in Austin for years. He's about your age, and I bet y'all ran in the same circles back in the day.
L-5, S-1 disc removed, 2 titanium screws to fuse it, and I'm in pain every darn day. Can't say the surgery was a success, and I can't imagine having another one, much less two! I've often wished I had never had it, although the pain before the operation was excruciating. Now, it still is, but it's different, if you know what I mean. I can walk, which is a plus. The sciatic pain down my legs was so bad, pre-operation, that walking was difficult. Now, sitting, bending, lifting... you name it, that all hurts to one degree or another, depending on the day, and what I do, but I can walk.
I wouldn't surprise me. There was a much smaller group of people doing what we did back then. I'm sure we were at the same place at the same time. I met a lot of people, and I'm terrible remembering names, so it's certainly possible. Did he ever go to the Vulcan Gas Company in Austin? The Armadillo? The Catacombs, Love Street Light Circus, and Liberty Hall in Houston? If he did, I probably ran into him at some point, or we may have gone to the same parties, or both.
I'm sure he did. He has a great collection of vintage Austin concert posters. Bands like Asleep at the Wheel. My older brother (now 43-44) definitely went to shows at Liberty Hall.
