Hello everyone, I don't have much friend so I will come in here for advice and encouragement for my recent developing relationship problem(s). First of all, I've been dating this girl for almost 4 yrs now, shes 23 and I'm 27. We love each other to no end and would do anything for each other and it shows. Shes given up a lot of her friends so she could be with me and I do the same. Her family treats me like I'm part of them and my family feels the same way for her. Sure we would get into fights here and there like other normal relationship, but not enough to break us apart. She is not the cheating type either, very honest,strong minded and career driven hard working young woman. As you can see, we're one happy couple. Last week, her and her friends all girls went on a trip to New Orlean. A long drive from IL, and they got back on Sunday. She called me up Monday night ....but her tone was unsual, like she was mad about something. She talked very little about the trip and didn't say a whole lot before she got off and went to work. I just brush it off like it was nothing and that maybe she was tired from the trip or maybe shes on her rag...i dunno. Well its Saturday and she still haven't contact me or return my calls which was unsual and I'm getting worried about her and our relationship. I try to think what I did wrong or maybe she did something wrong? I have no fricken clue! I decided to go see her at work. She saw me and said hi and that she said she was busy with the customer so I just left and didn't bother to ask her what the hell is goin on. At this point I think it will make things worse if I keep on pursuring the problem with her so I will just wait for her to contact me, if she does at all...but its hurting me inside not knowing the answer to her problems. I am very sad right now and don't know what to do. If you were put in my shoes what would you guys do and what do you think the probelm might be? I'm not sure if we even still together right now.
This is the suckiest, and MOST IMPORTANT part of a young relationship. This is hard, but you have to do it. Lay off for a couple of weeks. If no response, call her and tell her that obviously there are problems with y'all, but this can't go on this way. Tell her you still love her, but you won't tolerate her behaving this way. Tell her she can call you if she wants, but you're letting her go. She'll decide what's best then. Either way, don't grovel. Women can't stand that. Trust me.
Or do it my way. Bug her until she confesses. And when she does pounce on her like Shaq on a whopper. But seriously, maybe ur just being sensitive. She is a young working career driven woman and she doesn't have enough time for you. Anyways suck it up and don't let it bother you.
Not trying to be rude but maybe you don't know the answers to your problems. Maybe nothing is wrong at all and you are just scared of something being wrong. It's happened to me once.
You're so money and you don't even know it. This is how you're to approach the situation. You're like this big bear with claws and fangs, and big f**kin teeth, and she's like this little bunny cowering in the corner, shivering. And you're just looking at your claws like "How do I kill this bunny?". You're just poking at it. You're just gently batting it around, and the rabbit's all scared. And you got big claws and fangs and you're like " I don't know what to do. How do I kill this bunny?". You're like a big bear. Go be the bear! Don't take no for an answer and find out what happened.
Alright, she stopped by my house after work and explained to me her situation. Well, she said she has a lot of issues to take care of and needed the whole week to herself to decide how she wants to handle our relationship once she join the army next year. Right now she's a cadet in the ROTC(to pay for tuition) and it will be an obligation for her to be part of the Army for 4 yrs. Its something me and her never really want to sit down and talk about it...until just now at my house. Its better to get it over with now than wait and hurt us in the long run. Shes not sure what she wants to do that could benefit both of us. Our timing are just off...i wanted to start a family but her being in the army soon would prevent that. She said she will travel all over the world, something she dream of doing and that it could take longer to be over with. She felt bad that it has to be this way, but I told her that I will wait for her and to support her or to break up now and wait for what lies ahead. Unfortunately we both decided we needed to break up for now and give each of us time to think what we wanted to do. If I wanted a family now,and in this case I do since I am 27 and marriage and kids are something I want to look forward to before I get too old. It was a very emotional conversation that we had, and she was crying most of the time. We're are both hurt and sad but will remain best friend no matter what happen. We said our friendship means more than anything right now and that we need to keep it goin even though it will be tough for us to carry on like this. Man, this really sux...I hope we will be together again as a family in the future. Right now I am hurt,angry and confuse. I love this girl so much and will do anything for her and us to make it work. ....Anyway thanks for the advice everyone. I will let you know any new developement and will keep you posted. There goes my F***** Saturday night.
You know, I'm not a very serious person at times, and I kid a lot. But good work man, it takes serious stones to do what you did. Love is a mother****er isn't it. Kudos to you sir, Kudos to you.
Delete: noize posted his explanation at the same time i was posting my sage once-divorced advice. Good luck, noize.
Like anyone would really take relationship advice from FFB at this point... He has already admitted to being very bad at them... just messing with ya FFB, ya know I got nothing but love for ya bro..
Dude, what the hell is your problem? So she was mad at something, and didn't call u for few days, BIG DEAL! Lay it off, and give her some space man. As long as she isn't mad at u, just chill off.
Do you have a relationship? (just wondering) Good luck noize, Love can be a very difficult thing. You did good i hope everything works out for you and her.
