Has anybody here ever been involved in one of these. I'm kinda in one right now, but it feels like this triangle is of the isosceles-right variety and I'm the hypotenuse stretching between the two shorter sides. I wish there was a Pythagorean theorem for this kinda crap. "I've done the math enough to know the dangers of our second guessing."
Friends should never let friends drink and derive... But in this math case, beer might help things out in the open.
In a love triangle, don't the people form the vertices, and their relationships form the sides? I'm confused.
Hmmm....maybe that's where I've got it wrong. "Doomed to crumble unless we grow, and strengthen our communication."
Okay, not to get too technical, but assuming nobody in your triangle is gay or bi, there are two possibilities: 1) you are the one who is involved with two different women. 2) you are one of two guys involved with the same woman. I've been in both scenarios, and my brain exploded both times. I don't have the concentration to deal with that sort of stuff, but I hear it really works for people in France.
Most of the time I just trying to deal with with two points rather than three. And most of those relationships are dotted lines lacking any clarity at all.
How did you end up handling the situations? Mine would be possibility number 1, and my brain is indeed on the verge of askdiuuynbzzzzzzzzzdfgggggggggggg;;;w944444iuo829044449770009702222222@%**aseiiiiwerrrrrrrrwwwwww33=2ja;;\\w93anbv
Ah, the geometry of love... I always thought people were supposed to form the vertices of the triangle, and I understood why (assuming everyone is hetero) there is one person connected to both others, but why are those two connected to each other? Instead of a triangle, shouldn't it be a ... V or pointy thing? In traditional triangles, then, there's one person caught in the middle between two others. I've been in two situations where it seemed to apply at the time. The later one - well, I was in the middle, so at least I got to pick one. The earlier one - well, some will win and some will lose, and that one I just plain lost. Of course, the big question ought to be what you're fighting for and whether he (or she) is even worth it. Ever been in something that's more complicated than one simple triangle? Like, someone likes you, but you're more interested in someone else, who has their own relationship, with a person who's interested in... no telling who, but everyone is in the same coed group of friends. Those are the most interesting. You might form a love circle, polygon, or chain-link fence.
Well, in the first case, I couldn't keep track of who knew what or when I was supposed to see who, et cetera. I ended the triangle (or "pointy thing," thanks Isabel) after a couple of weeks and ended up just seeing one person. In the second case, I ended my involvment as soon as I found out that someone else was involved. I had thought I was in a simple line, not a pointy thing. In both cases, I was happier with simplicity, but I am a simpleton when it comes to romance.
Well, here's my situation: I've been in love with this one girl, we'll just call her B-Bob, for 4 years. One of my old best friends falls in love with B-Bob 3 years ago. I painfully watch (some times even help) as the two hook up. After going to jail for a little while, I end up reaching a compromise with my love for this girl; so we become best friends. That's been the way it has been for the last year or so. Then, I start to get to know B-Bob's closest female friend and begin to realize that she's the first person in four years that I've been able to honestly and deeply like. We'll call her Clutch. Then, B-Bob breaks up with the old best friend and I have to endure much pain on the old friend's behalf here, because he truly loves B-Bob. B-Bob just quotes her reason for leaving him as "Wanting to be free...I'm only 20 years old, I'm too young to be practically married." Understandable B-Bob. Then one day not too long ago, Clutch tells me that she feels the same way about me as I do about her. I am overjoyed with this news, Clutch is such a great woman. BUT, out of Clutch's respect for B-Bob, she says won't let herself pursue a relationship with me. I trip on that. "Why would B-Bob even care?" I says. Clutch lets me know that B-Bob also feels the same way about me that I have been feeling about B-Bob for a while. But then, me and Clutch overcome this obstacle and begin a relationship anyways. Less than 48 hours later, B-Bob emails Clutch as Clutch is asking me whether or not B-Bob still occupies my mind. I don't lie, and I tell her sometimes. So then Clutch gets on her email and shows me something she had sent to B-Bob and the response B-Bob just sent her. Clutch had asked B-Bob what to do with the situation between me and her, and B-Bob told her something to the extent of "I can't be mad just because Dallas doesn't feel the same way about me as I do about him. He likes you, Clutch, and not me. I don't blame you for that. Just please don't hang around me as a couple because I couldn't take that." Well, B-Bob is my best friend, and I've been in love with her for so long that you can imagine my shock at any kind of reciprocation. It was visible to Clutch. It was then that Clutch decided she couldn't allow me to do this 4 year situation (and me and Clutch) such an injustice as to be with her. She also decides that we can't really see each other - even though she's now one of my closest friends period - because of our attraction to each other. B-Bob, on the other hand, is in the middle of the ex-relationship problems and can't be talked to. B-Bob is also in a "I don't want to be with anybody" mindset, and I'm tired of being a backorder slip. There are also quite a few other differences between me and B-Bob that would make a relationship into a task. Clutch, on the other hand, is perfect for me as far as I can see. The girl even started surfing this BBS when I showed it to her one day, and after not knowing that Yao played for the Rockets one day prior, up and asks me "So do you think Yao Ming really talks trash?" a la the thread in the Main Forum (which I didn't even show her BTW). I wish I wasn't in love with B-Bob, because this would be the most blatantly obvious situation I've ever been in. So to sum it up, now I'm out: 1. A best friend (B-Bob) 2. My next closest friend. Despite the short relationship, still one of the very few people I can trust (Clutch) 3. That 4 year love still 4. The only thing that ever was powerful enough to eclipse said love That was the Cliffs Notes version, BTW.
Man, I just got off the phone with 'Clutch'. She is amazing. Why can't I find a way to have that amazingness?
Do you really know whether this is a triangle? That seems naively two-dimensional to me. What makes you think each vertices isn't a vertices of another triangle in another relationship dimension? More like a love star, like this: <img src="http://www.artcultures.com/TheStore/graphics/LSCH-M-010.jpg"> In fact, I don't think love triangles really exist, since two-dimensional geometry really is a figment of our imagination (they have no Z coordinate), and besides, chemistry and gravity between moving bodies tends to always attract more moving bodies, forcing love triangles to clump, or break apart into a marriage vortex. If you can uncover those other triangle dimensions, that is how you solve the situation. OK, I'm serious here. One of those two women has another relationship that she isn't telling you about that is probably not making her brain explode. (As much as us guys think we can handle a triangle, it is the women who succeed most often.) If you can figure out which one, then you just come clean and say flat out that it is really cool to have two relationships going on at once, as long as one of them knows everything and thinks it's cool as well. I call it the Monday Night thing. Some beautiful women is out there with a sugar daddy (or sumpin) or simply wants to date around. In the case where she has another guy, you don't want to trust him with knowing (always a bad move), so you become her Monday Night thing while he is watching football like a fool. In the case where she is dating around, your Monday Night assurance helps her judge her weekend guys properly. She knows her libido won't get the best of her, because she knows you'll satisfy her on Monday, regardless....or Sunday even, in an emergency. But don't ever do a Saturday or Friday with a Monday girl...that breaks the laws of 3-dimensional love stars and your 2D plane will rip apart as you combine weekend and weekday love, and you'll probably fall into the inescapable vortex of marriage. So, what's up with the 3rd vertices on you plane of the love star. OK, this one is your Friday/Saturday thing. She doesn't actually know that she is on a love star. So sometimes you have to see her more often. Don't ever allow her to sleep over Sunday night, and make her believe you are a diehard Monday Night football fan or you have a poker game that night. The Friday/Saturday girl is interchangeable. The Monday thing is the keeper. Just watch out for the marriage vortex.
just read the B-Bob/Clutch triangle. OK, so I have no advice for that. Dude, don't date best friends. Didn't you learn anything in high school geometry?? That's not a love triangle or a love star. I don't know what it's called anymore, because I haven't seen one of those since high school.
This is what I get for one of my very few sincere posts. Not only is my gender bent, but "I" don't even get the guy. Well, I've learned my lesson. B-Bob the girl? Okay:
