I know most of you probably dont like me and its probably understandable from some of the crazy posts I have made but my wife and I are having some serious issues. Unfortunately, I have brought most of it on myself and I dont care to go into the details but it is my fault. I made a huge mistake about 6 months ago but have been trying to make things better. I really have been putting in the effort and wanting to change not just for my wife and kids but for me. Unfortunately my wife found out and wants a divorce. I dont blame her and I dont deserve her. She is a good woman and I have taken her for granted much of our marriage. I had seen this before she found out and have been busting my butt to make it better. I love her so much it makes me sick. I dont want to be without her. My heart is completely broken and I know hers is too. I am ashamed of what has happened and how I have treated her for so long. I am tore to pieces because I have let her down and hurt her. I want to make it better. I want to make her proud. I want to love her and I want her to love me. I will do anything to make it right. I am praying for forgiveness, for healing, and to make our family happy again. Please pray for my wife, my kids, and for me. I know that there is power in prayer and I dont want my family to break apart. I appreciate anyones help.
If your salvation is true, this has not happened for the purpose of condemnation, but instead for reconciliation. Your prayers will have a greater effect than mine right now, but I will continue to pray for you and your family, brother.
My prayers will be with you, too, MB. Can you and her not work this thing out at all? Is there anyway that you can talk to her about counseling to save your marriage?
Thank you to all for your comments and help. We are talking at least and she hasnt left yet. We had a good talk last night and I have asked her to go to counseling or to talk to our pastor. I would do anything to make it work. She said that she is thinking about it and says that she wants her space. I am trying to do that but still show her how sorry I am and how I want to make it work. She said that she is 95% sure that she wants to leave but the other 5% says not too only because she loves me so much. She says that she knows I was trying before she found out and that she was happy. This just nullifies all of that. Understandably. I am just scared of losing her and not knowing what will happen. She is a great woman and I love her.
As I am recently divorced, I know what you guys will be going through if it goes south. I wish there was some way I could give her advice. There's so much she has to know about divorce...so much that people DON'T know until they go through it. Pride has to go out the window. It will always get in the way. So much to tell you, but I should talk to you in private. PM me if you'd like.
She's mad now but hopefully not for a long time. Understand how hurt she must be and yes, it'll take time to heal. GOOD LUCK! and yes, even though I don't pray I'll say one for you my friend!
PM doesnt work, I sent you my messaging aliases via the email you have listed with cc.net. You can also get them from my profile.
Will prayers really help?? you reap what you sow. if you are using divine help for redemption than where was your divinity 6 months ago when you started all these problems. dont react to what i just wrote, think about it. If you read everything written in this thread it ammounts to a hefty amount of blind faith. If you have so much faith you shouldnt have gotten yourself into this possition. What makes you think you deserve redemption. asking her to stay is a selfish act. much like I'm sure whatever indiscretion caused this mess Baiter, seriously, take care of your kids! take care of your wife too! and remember that they didnt ask for any of this. and if you think it helps, well I will send some positive energy your wife and kids way. hopefully things work out for all of you PEACE
I agree that I am using God as my life raft instead of letting him be at the helm of my ship. Sometimes things like this happen to bring you to your knees so that you come back to where you need to be in your walk with God. I hate that it has taken something like this for that to happen. I also understand that I deserve everything that is happening to me and believe me I am paying. I just hope that I dont have to pay the rest of my life by losing my family. What happened before was selfish and I dont deny that. I have been a selfish person for a long time but I dont want to be that person anymore. I am not trying to lay blame anywhere but on myself. I just know that my wife hurts and eventually my kids will hurt and I dont want that. I dont deserve her, her mercy, or her compassion. I hope that she shows me mercy and compassion even though I shouldnt get it. I want a chance to show her that I do love her and that I want to make her happy. I want to make things better than they ever have been. I think that my marriage and family can be salvaged. I understand if you or anyone doesnt want to pray for me to keep my family since I brought it on myself but pray for my wife and kids so that they can have peace and comfort. VOR I appreciate your constructive critisism and I have taken it to heart. I also appreciate everyone elses kind words and prayers.
all fall short of the glory of God....God acknowledges that...and God forgives and asks us to forgive each other in the same way. who among us hasn't made a mistake??? Master -- God uses our weaknesses as a way to draw us to Him....to show our need for Him. It sounds like you're feeling that right now. I am SO sorry this situation has worked out this way...and I pray that you're able to have your cries for forgiveness to your wife answered....not because you deserve it (NONE OF US DESERVE FORGIVENESS!!!)..but because it preserves a family and COULD make your marriage ultimately stronger. I pray for that kind of healing. remember Romans 8:38-9: "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." God bless you...
1. Prayers will help 2. Faith is blind by definition 3. All deserve redemption 4. Keeping a family together is not selfish 5. How is "positive energy" different from prayer?
