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Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Another Brother, Feb 13, 2007.

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  1. rrj_gamz

    rrj_gamz Member

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    That is kinda ghey, IMO, but of course I have no trouble saying "i love u" to a true friend, in a non-gay kinda way...There is that akwardness, but in the end, its good to have close friends...I would have no trouble saying this to a girl who is just a friend...
     
    #21 rrj_gamz, Feb 13, 2007
  2. WhoMikeJames

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    Yeah my friend everytime we hang up on the phone he says okay man later, i love you dude. Kind of awkward...
     
    #22 WhoMikeJames, Feb 13, 2007
  3. Jeff

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    It's like the difference between a "real" hug and a "man" hug. A real hug is the kind given to relatives, girlfriends or other guys ONLY when in a very emotional moment - death in the family, winning the Super Bowl, hitting a game winning shot, etc.

    A "man" hug is the kind where you shake hands and hug with the off arm. That's acceptable as a greeting or a goodbye.

    I think "I love you" is fine as long as it is extremely casual ("I love you, man" with a laugh) or in an emotional moment ("You're like a brother to me...I love you").

    Saying it too often can get a little strange...not that there's anything wrong with that.

    :D
     
    #23 Jeff, Feb 13, 2007
  4. smoothie

    smoothie Jabari Jungle

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    exactly what i was gonna say...

    i love you man!

    :D
     
    #24 smoothie, Feb 13, 2007
  5. rimrocker

    rimrocker Member

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    Just make sure there's an empty seat between you and him when you go to the movies together.
     
    #25 rimrocker, Feb 13, 2007
  6. swilkins

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    I love you, Jeff
    I love you, Jeff
    I love you, Jeff
    I love you, Jeff
    I love you, Jeff
    I love you, Jeff
    I love you, Jeff
    I love you, Jeff
    I love you, Jeff
    I love you, Jeff

    I think it's pretty funny how we allow ourselves to feel the fear emotion, when love expressed.

    Could it be related to trust, such as:

    I don't trust this guy and how he wants my kick-ass love. Maybe he hasn't earned it yet. -OR-

    I don't trust myself. Too much of this and I might have to mount this awesome man.

    It's just not a very common thing among guys. Too many things on the outside have prevented us from sharing mutual feelings. It's tough to do it, while maintaining the macho disposition.

    Guy#1: I love you, man
    Guy#2: Coo

    I blame MTV
     
    #26 swilkins, Feb 13, 2007
  7. KaiSeR SoZe

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    maybe he was drunk...

    still should've used 'man' at end
     
    #27 KaiSeR SoZe, Feb 13, 2007
  8. finalsbound

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    I knew several guys at my old church that would tell each other they loved them. "Brothers in Christ"..."I love you so much"...yada yada.
     
    #28 finalsbound, Feb 13, 2007
  9. IROC it

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    response:

    I appreciate you, too.
     
    #29 IROC it, Feb 13, 2007
  10. Sishir Chang

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    I think it all comes down to how secure you are in your sexuality.
     
    #30 Sishir Chang, Feb 13, 2007
  11. basso

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    guy love...

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    #31 basso, Feb 13, 2007
  12. IROC it

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    They did that on Kimmel.

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    #32 IROC it, Feb 13, 2007
  13. astrorockette

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    You can always say "back atcha, kid". Thats what I said to the last guy I wasn't dating who said it to me. I dunno guys are weird about expressing love.

    I say "love ya babes" to my friends all the time but then I'm a girl so its not really that weird.
     
    #33 astrorockette, Feb 13, 2007
  14. surrender

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    DO SOMETHING MANLY
     
    #34 surrender, Feb 13, 2007
  15. Lil Pun

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    I don't think I've ever had a male friend say that to me. It's OK either way though.
     
    #35 Lil Pun, Feb 13, 2007
  16. Invisible Fan

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    You had me at hello?
     
    #36 Invisible Fan, Feb 13, 2007
  17. Achilleus

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    JD: You know what? I'm gonna take you out tonight. Yes, Sir!! We're gonna get some dinner, we get a nice bottle of wine...

    Turk: Sounds like you´re asking me out on a man date.

    JD: Turk, why are you so afraid of loving me?


    Just let it flow....

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    #37 Achilleus, Feb 13, 2007
  18. ToothYanker

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    Next time he says it, just kick him in the groin and walk away. He'll learn.
     
    #38 ToothYanker, Feb 13, 2007
  19. moestavern19

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    Weigel : Suck his D*ck! Suck his D*ck!
     
    #39 moestavern19, Feb 13, 2007
  20. B-ball freak

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    um, ok, the cherish your friendship thing is much creepier...sorry
     
    #40 B-ball freak, Feb 13, 2007
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