Need??? I guess not, given I know some pretty great families headed by single parents. Seems very odd to phrase it that way though. Generally, they're better off with a Dad, but of the friends I know who've married because of a pending bambino, none has remained married. I'm not convinced that's better.
This is not surprising to me. Some men, like myself, must suffer with a potency that cannot be contained by convential control contraptions. My ejaculate is like a WMD to an IUD. Hormonal methods of sperm-deflection are of no use either. My semen blasts through a Progestogen-enhanced mucous lining like a bullet through butter. Damn...that was kind of sexy, what I wrote right there. Anyway, just saying that twins are pretty awesome, but only when they're all grown up and have massive love jugs. What was this thread about again? Oh yeah. It's a bummer that a 41 yr. old woman would have to deal with such a surprise, but hopefully she has the forthrightness and the massive love jugs to..... Sorry...I'm too distracted to continue responding to this thread.
The above posts make me wonder who the real master baiter is on this board. (actually, there are probably lots of them) I hope 41 isn't too old to have kids. Probably not with modern medical care. If I have kids, I might be close to that age. Look what was just posted about the cost of day care. It's probably cheaper out here in the sticks, but still... Ferdinand might have to go on night shift, because I can't see us affording it. We have no relatives out here. We can barely even support ourselves. Not to mention I have to be more comfortable that this whole situation is what I really want. By the way, the fertility awareness method does work. You just can't mess around with it. It's essentially partial abstinence. I feel like one of the few women around who have been lucky enough not to get knocked up. It's just not fair that we have to be the human incubators and that we have to use those things on our chest as cow udders. It scares me. Sometimes I think you guys have it made. Think tonight about how lucky you are.
Man, I was beginning to be deeply freaked by the whole, "My god, she's so old to have kids!!" implication in a couple of posts. I was 45 when we had our 9 year old daughter. I've got a 13 year old son. The "Old Lady" and I have been married for almost 27 years now. (arrgh!! ) Both kids make straight A's and constantly frighten us, because they're so damned good. We figure they were deposited by aliens or somethin'. Being a replicant, my thoughts tend to stray in that direction. basso, your friend will be fine. Freaked out, busy as hell, poorer, but fine. And in the not so distant future, she'll realize just how lucky she was to have this happen. I don't see why a husband is that big a deal. I'm pretty damned useless. Keep Something Civil!!
See, that's the other thing. After all that business about carrying it, bearing it, and feeding it, then we're still expected to provide most of the care, even with a partner around. I don't know how that could possibly be fair (unless he's working significantly more hours than she is). I get mad enough at mine for just not cleaning the bathrooms more often. I can't imagine how upset I would be if he didn't end up doing his fair share with the kids.
Isabel, you neglected my "winkie." I'm the exception that proves there are no rules. (I'll try again!) I even keep the toilet seat down! (unless I'm standing in front of it) My wife is constantly telling me what a great Dad I am. Frankly, I think she's demented and confused by the other replicant I have around the house, who looks exactly like me, being the same model and all. I have him do all the stuff my lady thinks I do, while I spend hours on this BBS. This all goes back to when my great uncle Felix was abducted by aliens at what became Big Bend National Park, one night while camping above the Basin. But that's another story.
in fairness to my friend, i think much of the deeply freakitude revolves around having twins. i have twin brothers, and twin nephews,a nd they're an enourmous amount of work- hard on your body, walletm psyche, support system- the last even more so when you're a single parent. i know my wife and i were deeply freaked when we briefly thought we were going to have twins with the last pregnancy...would've loved it, but...wow!
Again, I have to agree with Mr. Valdez. People are so freaking judgemental sometimes, I swear. Congrats to your friend, basso. Of course she's freaked out right now, most everyone who gets pregnant unplanned feels that way. However, it won't be long before she becomes extremely excited about the whole situation. Hopefully the ex won't make things any harder, but I bet she has a lot of friends who are going to be willing to help as well.
well she told the father this evening, and it didn't go well. he accused her of trying to ruin his life, since,as he put it "he doesn't want to have anything to do with the kids, and if she goes ahead and has them, he'll always feel guilty for not doing his share," which is actually pretty ****ed up. he put a lot of pressure on her to end the pregnancy. pressure she's resisted, so far. i guess i was wrong in my earlier positive estimation of him.
It's pretty difficult for a woman to get pregnant in her 40s - so in the long run I think she will be really happy about this bit of fate.
Too bad. Hope she has them anyway. Single parenthood may not be ideal, but the deed has already been done and plenty of people have been raised fine by dedicated single moms. At least this way she will have a family; who knows, the kids' father may come to accept it in the future, or she may find another father figure for their lives. Sex results in pregnancy. He should have known that there is always some risk there.
Tell me this: If your friend lied to the guy - telling him that it was safe because she was on birth control, while all the while knowing that she skipped on the pills, kinda hoping for an accident as you alluded to earlier - then how is the guy not justified in his anger? Sure, he's an idiot for a.) trusting a woman he's not married to when it comes to something like this & b.) ejaculating inside a "strange" woman even though the pill isn't 100% effective (especially when you skip doses); but your friend is quite a devious and/or stupid woman as well. I think it's reprehensible he would ask her to end the pregnancy - these are humans we're talking about here, not mosquitos - but he has every right to be pissed as hell if she lied about "being on the pill." He'll have to pull his weight financially no matter what now though - the state will make sure of that whether he likes it or not.
I'll be 66 when my fourth (and youngest) child graduates from high school. I was 48 when my oldest graduated high school. Man, I feel--- AM --- old.
Man, that's some ****ed up ****. This is why I wrap my dick AND pull out. No way in hell I'm going to pay child support the rest of my life because an old girlfriend and I got drunk and she kind of "hoped for an accident." As soon as I'm able to financially, I'm getting a vasectomy. Until then, I'll dilligently utilize the money shot.
I feel like one of the few women around who have been lucky enough not to get knocked up. It's just not fair that we have to be the human incubators and that we have to use those things on our chest as cow udders. It scares me. Sometimes I think you guys have it made. Think tonight about how lucky you are. She's just messing with mentioning "things on our chests" us as we we remember posts about having to employ an industrial strenght bra and having a hard time playing the piano. PS I hope this post will engender some empathy for the poor women of Texas, who also slip up and get impregnated by poor men too poor to pay anything. Poor women and kids receive financial support roughly 48th lowest out of the 50 states. Hopefully it will engender support for the public school system and other insitutions this family will probably need.
