Men do you pay for everything in your relationship/marriage?

This

 

And she is literally telling him verbatim.

last thing OP, never go by what someone says in a relationship. Always go by the actions. You’ll find the latter are always consistent.

 

That's what dating is for. Now you know who and what she is. Thank God you found out now.
Now kick her to the curb where she belongs.

 

My money is our money, but her money is her money.

 

We are a team, what is mine is hers and hers is mine, that said, I probably have paid more than 90% of our expenses, and don't regret a single penny.

DD

 

My man, she is using you.
Stop putting it on a pedestal.

Even the best ones get boring after a while. So when that evitably happens, what else is she bringing to the table other than being a leech?

 

Rocket River

 

Dated a girl a while a go who eventually started showing minor red flags, but was otherwise pretty awesome. One day at lunch I decided to mess with her a bit so when the check came I asked if we could split the tab. Her face was priceless...I let it go for a few seconds and then said, j/k. She said she thought I was about to break up with her in the middle of a crowded restaurant, I said "nah, I usually do that via text". Then we laughed.

I just wanted to see how she'd react. She passed the test.

 

Yeah, but was she in to butt stuff?

 

I am a dinosaur so my experiences and opinions are of limited value to you @TheRealist137

Having said that, I have always paid for everything financially when it came to relationships with women.

I financially pay 100% with my wife and kids.

Having said that - my wife pays in other ways. For example, because I have the burden of finances, she has to pick up the slack when it comes to planning things, taking our son out - and she has a lot larger emotional burden than me.

However - I am rapidly approaching 50 years old, so I am not 25-30 years old. So the circumstances are different.

Sounds to me like you were not compatible. She wanted someone to financially take care of her, and in exchange she would have sex with you, would dress well, stay in shape and likely go to social events with you...... that isn't a prostitute or escort if she loves you, it is just different expectations in the relationship.

You need to figure out what you need from a spouse and what you want and convey it. I was actually flexible when I was younger. My wife went to med school and I expected her to be a doctor, but she changed her mind after cancer and I adapted --- but that wasn't one sided, she had to adapt as well.

 

If you want to keep her around pay for her.

Either she is a good person or not. Whether she wants to split the bill or not isn't an indicator.

A lot of these ladies grew up with dads who took care of everything.

 

"I'll say one good thing about my wife's cooking, it broke the dog from begging at the table."

 

What kind of dinosaur?

Spoiler

 

Wife and I split cost...I would say 70-30%. Is the drama worth it? It eventually gets tiring but it doesnt really phase me.

 

My wife doesn't work outside of the home, so yes, I pay for 100% of everything.

If she ever starts working again, I'm sure she'd pay for some stuff, but we only have one bank account, so it doesn't really matter anyway.